If you've ever found yourself getting 15 psychic readings about the same person in one week, asking "Are they thinking about me?" for the hundredth time, refreshing their social media at 2 AM looking for signs they’re missing you - you might not be in love.

You might be in limerence.

And if that's the case, you're probably also feeding a psychic addiction without even realizing it.

Look, some of what I'm going to say here might seem harsh. Sometimes the truth hurts. But you know what hurts more? Wasting years of your life on a fantasy that was never going to hold your hand in real life or wipe away your tears or go with you to the County Fair. Years you'll never get back. Years you could have spent building a real relationship with a real human being who loves you back and doesn't require a psychic to interpret their feelings towards you.

What is Limerence?

Limerence is that all-consuming, obsessive preoccupation with another person that feels like love but is actually an addictive cycle.

It's characterized by:

Intrusive, obsessive thoughts that interfere with work, sleep, and daily functioning
Refusal to accept their actual level of interest - interpreting neutral behavior as hidden signs of love
Euphoric highs from minimal signs that you analyze and re-analyze obsessively
Crushing lows when reality doesn't match your fantasy
Fantasizing about a future together based on minimal evidence
Analyzing every text, every look, every interaction for hidden meaning while ignoring the obvious

Sound familiar? If you've been there, you're not alone. And although I hate to admit it…I’ve been there too. (I did publish my memoir Psychic Junkie where I pretty much spare no detail of the depths of my mastery at limerence fueled by psychic readings so I guess the cat’s been out of the bag for decades already…)

The Perfect Storm: Limerence Meets Psychic Readings

Here's where it gets dangerous for your sanity and your bank account: limerence creates the perfect conditions for psychic addiction.

Limerence thrives on a delicate balance of hope and uncertainty. Too much certainty kills it. Too little hope kills it. But that sweet spot in between? That's where limerence lives - and where psychic readings become irresistible.

When you're in limerence, you become desperate for any information about the other person. Any crumb of hope. Any validation that your obsession is justified and that yes, they're "The One" and yes, they're thinking about you, and yes, you should keep waiting.

Enter psychic readings.

Suddenly, instead of sitting with the uncomfortable uncertainty of not knowing how someone feels about you, you have access to "answers." Psychics who will tell you:

"He's thinking about you right now!"
"I see a reunion in three months"
"She's your twin flame, that's why it's so intense"
"He's just scared of his feelings"
"The Universe is testing your connection"

These predictions feel like oxygen when you're drowning in limerent obsession. They provide temporary relief from the anxiety and give you permission to keep hoping, keep waiting, keep obsessing.

But here's the thing - you're not getting clarity. You're getting hooked.

And here's where it gets really dangerous: psychic readings can actually create limerent relationships with people you barely know in real life.

I've seen people develop full-blown obsessions with someone they matched with on a dating app but never met. Or a coworker they've had three conversations with. Or even a celebrity they follow on social media.

A psychic tells them "I see a strong connection" or "He's your soulmate" or "She's your twin flame" and suddenly they're having an entire relationship - in their head. They're planning their future together with someone they barely know, interpreting every Instagram story as a sign, and getting reading after reading to fuel the fantasy.

Don't even get me started on "Twin Flames"... These are buzzwords used by some unethical psychics who know exactly how to get you hooked. Nothing keeps a client coming back like telling them their unavailable person is their "Twin Flame" who's just "running from the intensity of the connection."

Meanwhile, in reality? This person may not even know they exist. Or maybe they went on one coffee date that didn't lead to a second one.

The psychic readings become the foundation for an imaginary relationship that feels real to the limerent person. They're not just getting predictions - they're getting permission to build a fantasy life in their minds that will eventually lead to disappointment in the real world.

Love vs. Limerence: What's the Difference?

Now, let's be real - falling in love can feel pretty intense too. You might think about them constantly, feel butterflies, and yes, even overanalyze their texts. The difference is in the quality of those feelings and what happens over time.

Healthy early love feels like:

Excitement mixed with genuine curiosity about who they are
Nervousness that's balanced with joy and anticipation
Feeling good about yourself when you're with them
Reciprocal interest and communication
The intensity settles into something deeper and more secure over time

Limerence feels like:

Obsessive thoughts that interfere with your daily life
Anxiety that overshadows the joy
Needing constant reassurance and validation
Feeling worse about yourself the more invested you become
One-sided emotional investment despite mixed signals
A desperate "I can't live without this person" feeling
The intensity escalates into more obsession, not deeper connection
Fantasy-based - you're in love with who you hope they'll become

The key differentiator? In healthy early love, uncertainty feels manageable. You might wonder where it's going, but you're not frantically getting psychic readings about how they’re feeling about you to ease your anxiety.

In limerence, uncertainty feels like torture, and you'll do anything - including spending your rent money on readings - to get relief from the obsessive thoughts.

When you're in love, you don't need 20 psychic readings to confirm it. You might be excited and nervous, but there's an underlying peace because you don’t need a psychic to tell you how they feel.

When you're in limerence, you'll spend thousands of dollars asking psychics to decode every emoji in his text messages because the not-knowing feels unbearable.

The Fairy Tale Prediction Trap

I spent years getting psychic readings about guys who were clearly (in retrospect) the wrong guys for me. After hundreds of readings, I basically got every possible prediction under the sun of how the relationships were going to turn out: It would never last. We would be together forever. We would be together for 3 years and then break up and then the next guy…HE would be "The One." (He wasn't.)

Those fairy tale predictions kept me stuck. They gave me permission to ignore red flags, to waste years waiting on people who had already shown me through their actions that I wasn't a priority.

Those predictions encouraged limerence, prevented me from moving on and finding actual love.

Because here's what no psychic ever told me: if someone wants to be with you, you'll know. If they don't, you'll know that too. And if you're confused about where you stand, that's usually your answer right there.

Your Inner Psychic Knows the Difference

The most accurate psychic reading you'll ever get about your love life is the one you give yourself when you quiet your mind and honestly tune into your own feelings and inner knowing.

Your Higher Self knows the difference between love and limerence.

Your inner wisdom can tell you when you're in a healthy dynamic versus when you're caught in an obsessive cycle.

Your intuition knows when someone is genuinely interested versus when you're projecting meaning onto breadcrumbs.

But you have to be willing to listen - even when the answer isn't what your limerent brain wants to hear.

Breaking the Cycle

If you recognize yourself in limerence, here's the truth: no psychic reading is going to fix it. No prediction about them coming back is going to heal the underlying wound that makes you cling to unavailable people.

The healing happens when you:

Recognize limerence for what it is - an addiction, not love
Stop feeding it with psychic readings that give false hope
Focus on your own healing instead of trying to control someone else's feelings
Learn to trust your own inner knowing about what healthy love feels and looks like
Address the underlying fear of abandonment that makes you desperate for unavailable people

The Real Questions

Instead of asking psychics "Will he come back?", “Is she thinking about me” or “When will I hear from them?” try asking your Higher Self:

"What do I really need to heal?"

"What am I trying to fill with this obsession?"

"What would it feel like to be truly loved and valued?"

"Where could I channel this intense energy to actually improve my life?"

"What dreams or goals have I put on hold while chasing this fantasy?"

"What would I do with my time and mental energy if I wasn't thinking about this person?"

"What am I avoiding in my real life by staying focused on this person?"

"How do I want to feel in a relationship, and does this situation actually give me those feelings?"

"What would my life look like if I put this same energy into loving myself?"

Those are the questions that will actually change your life.

The truth is that you are your own best psychic. And your inner wisdom is trying to guide you toward real love - not the addictive, anxiety-inducing cycle of limerence.

But you have to be willing to listen.

🧡 Sarah

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